[blockquote] THE talk, haven't you? Topics to include money, kids, careers, goals, money, where to live, money, use of leisure time, money, [/blockquote]
Oh, don't forget kids, kids, kids, and kids. Seriously. I had one lady who wanted to get married and the deal breaker when we had that talk was kids. She wanted a lot of them, I didn't want any. Last I heard she was married with 5, count them, 5 kids. Yikes. Me, I am happy with the cat!
Bottom line, get all that stuff out of the way before you even think about popping the question. Nothing spells messy divorce faster than a lack of communication-before, after (the wedding), and during a marriage. 056