Soooo...
I can fly the shit out of the plane, but the heli, WTF?!? I can't keep that shit straight to save my life using the xbox controller. I really wish there was a way to map the controls more like BF4 (keyboard).
I read about this, there is some "pause option" you need to disable in the settings, that should remedy the problem.
edit: Found it, disable "pause when unfocused"