from origin is pretty simple. If you're getting sick of looking @ it follow these steps in order.

Log into origin.
Click the "?" icon
Click on "Live Chat"

Let them know that you are bugged with the bf3 beta icon in origin and you would like to have it removed. They'll remove it. Then they will ask you to log out and log back in. I did this and it worked.

Ha i wanna know how to get the alpha icon from my old account on my new one :p. It will show how old school I am one day haha.

The beta icon will actually launch the game by the way best i remember alpha doesn't pass login credentials because the plugin changed too much.

i dont see a wrench icon

might be the gear icon instead

i dont see live chat

Supra, I edited my post.
hope it all works out. ;)